5 Things Only Women Know

Women know about resilience, intuition, emotions that give strength to destinies and that, on the other hand, allow them to connect with others in a more intimate, constructive and exceptional way.

The wisdom a woman gains decade after decade is a treasure trove of values ​​and strengths that often serve as an inspiration to new generations.

Because if the female gender knows something, it’s about internal growth, about bravery.

However, by the title of this article we mean that there are a series of dimensions that only women dominate, know and control; and which the male gender lacks.

More than knowledge, we are talking about personal growth processes.

In the end, there is a latent reality that no one can deny: the patriarchy model is still very present and ingrained in many cultures.

The fact that men are still socially and culturally a figure of power in many of our daily scenarios means that women are forced to set in motion a series of processes that are not always visible.

We are talking about the challenges that nobody talks about, the changes, the internal and external struggles to achieve equality, to have a presence, a voice and an equal power.

These are processes that only women know about. Therefore, we want to share them with you as a reflection.

1. Women learned not to doubt themselves

For a long time the role of women was relegated to the private sphere of child rearing and home care.

As society progressed, its possibility of accessing scenarios previously marked by the male presence improved, but there are other factors that draw attention.

• Women are required to demonstrate, almost constantly, that they are capable of performing certain skills and responsibilities.
• It is clear that both genders are qualified when applying for a job opening.
• However, until recently there were doubts about whether a woman could assume, for example, a position of power in an organization.

Currently, there is an aspect that the female gender knows very well: that she is capable of taking on challenges, that she can have the same responsibilities as a man, and that her only limit is in her own mind.

2. They don’t need anyone to feel “complete”

Let us go back to the past once more. However, not to a remote past, but to one closer than we might think.

• It doesn’t take many generations to remember the comments they used to introduce into women’s minds: To feel complete and happy, you must find a partner.
• Even more: “the single woman, without a partner or without children can only aspire to unhappiness and frustration”.
• The most curious thing of all is that even though the young woman was aware that she felt good without the need to have someone by her side, society itself and her family expected it from her.

These days, women know that a partner doesn’t make someone feel more “whole” – the woman, like the man, has already arrived in the “whole” world.

Love makes us happy and we don’t avoid it, but it’s not an obligation, it’s not an imperative necessity.

3. We must set an example to the new generations: education is power

In recent years, an inspiring movement has emerged. We speak of the so-called “women’s empowerment”.

With this term and this initiative we seek the following:

• Achieve true gender equality.
• “Empowerment” in no way means standing above the male gender.
• The aim is to achieve a much-needed equality to demonstrate to many women that they “have power” in their hands; that you have “inspiration” in your mind and capacity in your being to get what you want.
• This aspiration takes on all its meaning in third world countries, where women are continually subjected to serious violations solely because of their gender.

Education is the key. Thus, in any society that wants to be called “advanced”, women and men need to educate their children in an inviolable value; that of equality.

4. Women have learned that taking care of themselves is not selfish

This aspect is a little more complicated. It can be said, without fear of error, that men also take this step very often; that of remembering that you don’t have to give everything for others to the point of forgetting yourself.

• However, this feature is more present in women.
• This is the well-known “Wendy syndrome”, which reminds that the female gender is, traditionally, very prone to take care of those they love and understand the happiness behind continuous attention to others.

Little by little this changes. We already know that it is necessary to impose limits, take care of one’s self-esteem.

Because if we’re not okay, we won’t be able to give our best to others.

5. Others’ opinions do not determine me

“You need to find a partner; you got fat; you need to dress up more to be always beautiful; now that you are a mother you need to stay at home; you need to build a career to be someone in life.”

This kind of advice is like a constant song that many women listen to. These days, they already know that what others say does not have to determine them.

Ultimately, authentic happiness is in making your own decisions;  the ones we want, the ones we like, even if others don’t understand them.

Images courtesy of Hajin Bae.