I Love You So Much, My Son

“I love you so much, my son” are words that we would all like to hear, but which, in some cases, do not appear very much within a family. Perhaps it has to do with the education or customs that each person was raised with. However, it is very important to show love for your children. For what reason? In this article, we explain.

love and children

First, beyond any definition or concept, love is a human need that produces well-being. For children, love helps them to grow up happy and feel more secure.

According to the book Psychosocial Development of Boys and Girls , by UNICEF, the basis of integral child development depends on the experiences they had during early childhood, within the family.

That is, if children grow up in a psychologically stable environment where they are treated with care and respect, they can develop the necessary social and intellectual skills. Some of these essential skills are self-confidence, self-esteem, the ability to love and share.

Basically, if children grow up in a psychologically healthy environment, they enjoy a positive attitude towards life and its countless challenges. As can be seen, the love of parents in their children’s lives is fundamental to their development and well-being.

Importance of showing love for children

It is commonly said that no one teaches us how to be parents, or that children come into the world without an instruction manual. But anyone learns to be a father and a mother, but generally the way they were raised. Children shape the parents even in the way of being parents, when the time has come.

On the other hand, it also has a natural instinct for the care and education of children, as well as the various lessons that experience teaches. The fact is that, over the years, millions of families around the world have raised their children according to the culture and beliefs of the time.

However, what is the best way to raise children to be happy?

How to educate children?

In his book Bésame mucho, how to raise your children with love , Spanish pediatrician Carlos González comments that people who were treated with affection during their childhood tend to be more peaceful, kind, understanding and also healthier and happier adults. The book ends by saying that a child’s happiest days depend on the parents.

This data is correct, as the child’s psychosocial development begins in the mother’s womb. This process occurs through interactions with the environment, such as movements, thoughts, actions, language, emotions and feelings, which arise from relationships with others.

From this, the fact that the parents are the first people with whom the baby interacts is irrefutable. Therefore, the baby is totally dependent on his parents to know a good part of life and happiness.

What does science say about showing love to children

The British journal Sociology, Health and Illness recently published an article in which it is indicated that showing love to children helps them to develop their brains and to be stronger emotionally.

Researcher Glenda Wall points out that the receptive and sympathetic behavior of parents, guided by experts, is essential to promote emotional strength and self-control in children.

Furthermore, it indicates that this construction of attachment tends to fall more on mothers than on fathers. However, both contribute to the integral development of your little one. In summary, if a child receives love, attention, care and, in addition, observes that their parents know how to regulate their emotions; the brain development and its adaptability will be favored.

What You Can Do to Show Love to Your Children

It would be ideal, but not all of us know how to establish healthy bonds with the people around us. Perhaps because of this, we come to think that we are not capable of cultivating a good relationship with our children. However, a key that helps to strengthen the bond between parents and children is to begin to understand them.

What can parents do to show love to their children? Then we give you some suggestions.

• Start from pregnancy. Both parents must show affection for the baby in the womb. They can talk to him, caressing his mother’s womb, or follow his movements. They can also take care of your health by seeing a doctor regularly.
• Having a constant caring attitude towards the child helps to develop a sense of confidence and security.
• Demonstrate love through affection, words, gestures, kisses, hugs and expressions at any time.

• Interact frequently in common activities and games.
• Encourage attitudes and behaviors that favor communication in the family.
• In addition to showing affection and affection, it is necessary to meet their basic needs, such as food, stimulation and basic care.

reflections

Perhaps you feel that saying words like “I love you so much, my son” is not necessary. But the fact is, showing love to your children is one of the keys to raising them healthily.

Perhaps, in addition to worrying about how to educate our children, it would be good to re-educate ourselves as individuals, before educating children. Maybe that way we can teach our children to live happier.